Posted on February 3, 2012 - by Lucie

My Mothering is Slipping Out

~ The moment a child is born, a mother is also born ~ Anonymous

As I have matured, and I use that term loosely, I have become more vocal in my opinions and my championing of the underdog has more of a Pit bull flavor at times. My mothering days somewhat over, I am embarrassed to say that I suffer from “Geeze I wish I hadn’t said that out loud” syndrome more often than not these days. But it is what it is and I definately need to revamp my zip the lip strategy in the very near future.

Is it age? Is it me? Or are people so focused on themselves that they have forgotten to look at the consequences of their actions? I get angry when I see people do stupid things and being rude to others and I get downright angry when I see people being taken advantage of. And there are days I can’t help myself… I have to say something.

There were several incidents over the last several days where I should have zipped it but my mothering slipped out once again and I was left shaking my head at my lack of restraint.

Both the peeps are incredibly busy and the boss lady, more so. She deals with me, all the businesses, the house, and all the other stuff a mother, wife, and nurturer does. Meanwhile, she is losing her grip with all that she has to juggle and her cranky is on Max. I get it. I understand totally. What I don’t get is why all the adults at home have not picked up the slack?

I expressed myself to the boss man while the boss lady was out of the office (I am verbal but not stupid) and asked if everyone can see just how busy and overwhelmed she is, why is no one stepping up to ease the burden? They are all great young adults, it’s time to pull them out of their rooms and hand them a broom, a grocery list, or a recipe book. A family is a team effort so why is MOM doing 90 percent of the work in addition to all the other tasks that are on her agenda?

I realized I overstepped and apologized but my mothering didn’t stop there. On Noooo. I had a young lad about 10 years old come into the store looking to sell some books. After I reviewed his books and set aside the ones I would buy, he demanded to know why I was not buying them all since it was a used book store and furthermore, why I was giving him so little cash since we were selling them for more money.

It was all I could do not to sent the little bugger to his room. I quietly suggested he take his books home if he did not like my answers. He pocketed his money, was surly while I finished his transaction and rudely left with his Mom demanding that she buy him Chinese food for supper. Mom never said a word.

Then a young woman came into the store without a coat and shivering while she stomped the snow off her boots (it’s well below freezing here) and clearly she was suffering a wicked cold. The first thing out of my mouth was not “Hi” but where was her coat and what was she doing out in this weather when she was so sick? She laughed as I helped her find what she was looking for and left with more nagging to get something warm in her and get to bed.

I know…my mothering needs to be reigned in. Is there an app for that?

God I miss my kids.