Posted on January 5, 2012 - by Lucie

New Years Resolutions – Chapter 51

~ Live exceptionally, Love abundantly, Laugh generously ~

January is just not complete without the requisite list of resolutions and since I am fond of finding new directions, I decided to modify my list for a more realistic approach to being a better me.

My current list for the year may seem a tad lengthy, however many are a carry forward until I get it right type of resolution. In no particular order of importance…

1. Let stuff go and stop worrying so much.   I mean really, its not like I am a brain surgeon, if I mess something up it’s not the end of the world. The sun will rise again and frankly I will never be out of work for long so enough already.

2.  Be more grateful.  I am embarrassed to admit but yes… I am one of those people and am forever complaining about what I don’t have and forgetting to see what I do have. Life is for living now, not for preparing to live later.

3.  Stop being so judgmental.  Which really is a laugh when I think about it because it’s not like I am doing the world a favor by achieving perfection within myself.  I need to just chill and drop the whole “Princess From Another Life” persona.

4. Quit justifying myself.  By this I mean talking without having to explain what I do and why I do it.  I no longer need to impress people – aka want them to like me, so I will just be me without offering a disclaimer within my conversations.

5.  Stop beating myself up for past mistakes.  The whole perfection thing needs to be purged from my soul and this reliving of mistakes slowly erodes my self confidence to its very core.  After all the good things I have accomplished in my life, focusing on the mistakes is just plain nuts.

6.  Refuse to put my needs last.  This is still a major hurdle with making sure everyone else is taken care of before I take care of myself.  It’s a form of controlling the outcome and when everyone is happy, I can be happy.  Again, this attitude needs a major re-haul and I am all over it.

7.  Surround myself with like minded people.  Hanging out with people who make me feel bad about myself is not really about them but about what I am allowing them to do. It becomes more of a problem when it is family, a job or even a close relationship. People should lift you up, not put you down and if they don’t,  I am moving on.

8.  Get healthy.  Yep, lose the weight, but losing the emotional crutch is the biggest step when in comes to losing the weight. I need to stop eating by mad, sad, bad moods before I can win this battle. And I will win it!

9. Relax more.  Though relaxing means many things to many people, actually not doing 3 things at once will be a good start.  Learning that sitting and reading is really OK and I don’t need to be doing the laundry and reorganizing the closet in between chapters.

10.  Find my Joy.   Too much work, stress and self sabotage has pushed it deep and I and determined to find it and celebrate it once again.

You know it’s true, the more you work at loving life the way it was intended, the better life loves you back.  Wonder why it takes us so long to figure this all out?